Bullying
No matter how much you yet to wipe it out, certainly in the united kingdom, bullying is going to happen. It is a fine line between who is the perpetrator and the abused, and it is an abuse, make no mistake about it, it is one of the worst experiences that one can go through, and trust me I know I was. Now people might look at me and think him but he is huge how could someone like that get bullied but trust me they do. In my case, like that of patch, my son, it was exactly because we were bigger than most of the kids of our class and also because we didn't want to fight back, it had been installed in both of is from an early she that to hit someone was wrong and something that one didn't do no matter how much we were provoked. How I now realise that this was the wrong course of action and if I had smacked someone as hard as I could then it would have stopped, a lesson I am not ashamed I tried to install in patch at the weekend. I can are you all raise your hands in horror at the suggestion but to me it is the only way.From both mine and patches experiences, all be them 30 years apart, are still the same. Forget all the school heads saying that they want to get rid of bullying, it won't happen, for a start they do not have the power to do so, as in the physical power over the children. They are scarred to believe 100% the child who says he is being bullied I can are their reason but quite frankly until they do it will never stop as kids such as Patch and I will stop reporting the incidents.
On top of this is the culture, something that the heads do not have control over. There is in schools the culture that it is cool to do nothing, to not achieve is to be king, to do nothing and get away with it. The ones who do work are cursed and ridiculed beyond comprehension and so the school billy wins. They will always disrupt and destroy and until this culture is taken out of society and role models are there of people who had to work at school this will continue. Now I have nothing against the god like status to which we place some but we need to temper the types and to mix cultures, unfortunately those whom are idolised specialise in activities that did not or do not require an educational background. How we change it I am not sure but until we do kids will feel that if they do nothing they could still become one of the chosen few, for they forget that those who are idolised put in a tremendous amount of work on their speciality, something the majority seem to forget and feel that it is handed to them on a plate and can be in turn handed onto them in such a way.
Bullying has to stop. When was it right for one kid to determine the fate of another through violence? To destroy all hope and to render one person a failure when in fact that person should be considered the winner for the bullied is normally the person who wants to achieve. Its not so much the schools that have to change, although they do need to, it is society in general. We need to use our brains in schools not our fists, we need to educate but also to advise, our teachers to teach but also for them to be taught. The education system in the UK has to be one of the worst in Europe and unfortunately it is fast becoming a role model for others, other countries who produce far better thinkers and experts that the UK ever will. Long gone are the times of Victorian values where children should be seen and not heard, certainly in the classroom they should be taught to question, to debate and to open their minds rather than the abject opinion on the teacher, dictated to from on high via the national curriculum that what the teacher says is right for to follow them will get you through the exams. When one leaves school one does not have the ability to question but again is blindly lead, we need to question, we need to feel that it is our right to question but we need society to allow us to question and this must come from the kids.
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